My Chaotic Mess When I first began exploring mindfulness, I wasn’t sure what I was looking for. Life had become a series of unfortunate events, each one piling on top of the last, creating an unmanageable weight. From the trauma of an assault that led to a forced abortion to the heartbreak of a four-year relationship that never led to marriage, I felt like I was constantly spiraling. The weight of a marriage that ultimately fell apart, losing custody of my children, struggling with mental health, and battling through health and work-related endurance issues—everything felt overwhelming. During these times, I found myself in need of tools—tools to help me manage, to cope, and to regain some control back. Mindfulness became one of the most invaluable practices I embraced. And through my journey, I discovered several resources that provided tangible relief: therapy, self-help groups, psychotherapy, counseling, and, yes, mindfulness tools. A Personal Journey Through Pain and Healing My pat...
Part 4 of a 10 Part Series Managing expectations. Expectations are mere benchmark or indicator of what you are able to do and achieve. It's set deep into an emotional attachment, a believe that you have some kind of ability or control over something. You are expected to control your anger. When you are in anger, you are never in control of what you are feeling, but you are in control of your actions. You are expected to be an ideal partner. You should know better because you know what I like. But I don't because what you like changes every 60 seconds. You are expected to be able to do the job, you've done this before. But I don't because every task requirement is different. You are expected to. You know better than this. Many things in life happens without your control. It happens beyond your comprehension what more control. You can't control other people's emotions, perspective and views. Despite what you think of yourself, you can't expect people to think ...