My Chaotic Mess When I first began exploring mindfulness, I wasn’t sure what I was looking for. Life had become a series of unfortunate events, each one piling on top of the last, creating an unmanageable weight. From the trauma of an assault that led to a forced abortion to the heartbreak of a four-year relationship that never led to marriage, I felt like I was constantly spiraling. The weight of a marriage that ultimately fell apart, losing custody of my children, struggling with mental health, and battling through health and work-related endurance issues—everything felt overwhelming. During these times, I found myself in need of tools—tools to help me manage, to cope, and to regain some control back. Mindfulness became one of the most invaluable practices I embraced. And through my journey, I discovered several resources that provided tangible relief: therapy, self-help groups, psychotherapy, counseling, and, yes, mindfulness tools. A Personal Journey Through Pain and Healing My pat...
Part 3 of a 10 Part series.
Achieving clarity
Clarity is to be in the present moment, with intentions- good or bad, knowing and focus on getting things done, understanding that outcomes- good or bad, is by the Divine Decree of the Creator, accepting if outcomes is in your favor-it is good for you and outcomes that doesn't go your way- are not good for you at all or not good for you right now.
Mental Clarity- This is a state of mind, that you understand what and why you are doing something. You are fully aware of the present moment and the consequences of your doing. Having mental clarity is separate from having emotional clarity. Unstable emotional state may cloud your judgement and make you second guess yourself, but you are aware of what and why you do it.
Emotional Clarity- You have to acknowledge what you feel in the present moment. No matter how bad you feel, you have to understand and know why you feel that way. You acknowledge that feeling your emotions are normal and it's nothing to be ashamed about, but you also have to control and manage that emotions.
An overly outburst of any type of emotion has a direct and indirect consequences. While you acknowledge your emotional state, you must also acknowledge it's effects on others.
Intentional Clarity- Having intentions, good or bad are the direct result of your mental and emotional clarity. However, you can change your very intentions easily. Despite being upset, you can have good intentions and do things differently. Despite being unsure of what to do, if you have good intentions, usually the outcomes mimics your intentions.
Achieving overall peace and calmness is to have the ability to control all three states and types of clarity. You have the understanding of how each state of clarity have it's own effect on you. Identifying your chaos is the first step, but understanding clarity is your first walk to healing.
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This is a light- hearted take on life, not an in-depth discussion, and certainly it's not meant to ridicule other people's perspective. I've come out from the deepest end in life and I know what it feels like to be in bad situations.
Read my blog post, where I share my personal story and decide to be my own hero.
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